The REAL Reason You Keep Quitting Your Dreams

hey guys um I had sort of an epiphany this morning um about well I tweeted about it uh and it was basically the Tweet was stop worrying about what people think of you and instead worry about what people think of themselves um this came from a place of well I mean Feeling Just insecure for the last couple years I don't know what's happened I feel like I'm in middle school again I'm 32 years old I run a successful game Studio I have a successful YouTube channel I run an online school things are going really well for me honestly um yet I'm most insecure I've ever been um it makes no sense um this insecurity comes from a place I realized the core the root of it all is caring what people think about me okay so I I went I went through some motivational videos um on YouTube and frankly they weren't helping me because a lot of these

YouTube videos they teach you to not worry about what people think of you but instead worry about yourself right stop worrying about let's say what people think about your video games that you're creating if you make video games a lot of you do on my on my channel or if you're an entrepreneur or you want to start a business don't worry about what people think just start your business and just screw them right or whether it's friends or family screw your family don't worry about what they think worry about yourself that is true in part like that's a good thing to do is is to stop caring so much about what people think of you totally get it the problem is if you really go full force with this you're going to end up isolating yourself because at the end of the day where communal creatures right we like people and if you're trying to grow even you know in business you want to be able to network and it's really hard to network when all you care about is you and you're not thinking about other people right there's a great book called The Go

giver and it's actually the opposite of the advice I just told you which is just give give give give to people give your ear to people give your love to people give your comfort to people always be willing to hear them out so which is it worry about yourself and stop worrying about other people and what they think of you or is it purely caring about other people and essentially just being a servant to the whims of your friends and family and your subscribers and your customers well I think you should combine the two which is again stop worrying about what people think of you and instead worry about what people think of themselves AKA love them right if you love people if you worry about what they're thinking about themselves meaning stop worrying what the what they're looking at in in you but instead worry about how they see themselves that means you can encourage them and be loving to them and at the same time you're thinking about them you're not thinking about you okay this is very important in business

and especially creative jobs I have made a ton of decisions in this particular industry which is the game industry I've made video game design choices because I was so worried about what my audience I'm on YouTube or my players would think of me I've made a ton of decisions in my my local community my friends or my family based on what other people thought of me and it turns out these decisions are always the worst ones and here's why the things that I love the things that I really really care about the most are typically things people don't care about and I feel I've always felt isolated in this way and if you feel isolated about in this way let me know in the comments most people don't care about things I care about I'm I care about what I think are maybe weird things right I really love Gothic horror I I really care about Stanley Kubrick films I love uh autobiographies uh historical autobiographies I'm a really big fan of

first-person shooters right even though I'm 32 years old I most my friends don't really care about that anymore I care about that stuff I also really love classical piano music like Chopin um so all these things are things people don't really care about oh David Lynch I love David Lynch these are things that a lot of people that kind of Fringe things and so what I've done in recent years what as it pertains to my career or my personal life is I've I've slowly snuffed those things out because I was afraid that if people found out I liked all these things it would make me look I don't know like a weirdo right and instead I tried to find other things that most other people liked and I do this in business as well I'm thinking okay well what's the most profitable game that I can make what's the most profitable video that I can make on YouTube at the end of the day I'm not passionate

about this stuff so it comes across what stale fake cold lifeless if I'm not passionate about something and not everybody's this way but I think most people are if you're not passionate about something you shouldn't do it I mean you can try like I'm a big proponent of trying new things and the truth is 90 of the new things you try you're not going to care about right so in conclusion if you're making a game if you're starting a business or you're becoming an entrepreneur or even in your friends or with your family be yourself okay be yourself because at the end of the day people really aren't looking at you they're actually looking at themselves just like you are everybody's looking at themselves and so be yourself have fun do what you want do what you're passionate about if you're really really into ping pong none

of your friends are into ping pong start a ping pong Channel and put it out there and let everybody know you love ping pong and people are going to love you for it because they're gonna well Number One You're Gonna open doors to people who love ping pong you're going to build a subscriber base in a community of people who love ping pong right but also your family is gonna find your passion for what you're interested in despite them not really caring your family and friends will find that that is well maybe even intoxicating that you love something so much and you're you're pretty Brazen about it and you don't care what people think and they're going to be inspired by that okay be yourself it's okay to get weird looks it's okay to get people not really caring what your you care about I think it's a you're a really lucky person if you care about things people don't care about and the reason why is because that's your niche it's a well it's an open market it's an untapped

Market let's say on YouTube or in an entertainment industry whether it's film or games or graphic novels you've found something you're passionate about that a lot of people aren't go fill that Gap go fill that void so be passionate about what you're passionate about try and care about the things you care about let those things manifest because well I think successful people they they're they're willing to get weird looks they're willing to put themselves out there and be confident about what they love and again they fill a gap they fill a gap so I'm going to fill the gap of Gothic horror Chopin classical piano music first person shooter games and I'm really into Dracula Dracula like I'm Gonna Fill that Gap and chances are there's millions of other people out there who love that kind of content okay so just be confident in who you are I

just wanted to leave you guys with that let me know in the comments what you think about this and I'll talk to you later cheers